If your mate decided that he would like you two to abstain from having sex prior to marriage, could/would you? Is the answer the same if you've already been "doing the do"?
I most definitly would. I would want to know why though and we would have to discuss it but I could definitly abstain. I think it shows a level of commitment that few aren't willing to test. You know a lot of times, when people stop bangin' they find they don't have that much in common but the sex. You know good sex will blind you sometimes and I think that its good to have a relationship without it for a period, especially on the front end, so that way you can really see if there's something there other than the physical. Cause ya'll know how hard it is to let someone go who dicks you down good. We've all been there. Anyway, I would abstain on the front end and on the back end even if we were already having sex--especially if we're already having sex, that may stop me from making a mistake, make sure I really like this Negro. LOL
If sex is where your relationship started and you later what to build something more, abstaining may be the best thing to do to ensure there is something else between you two besides good sex. You may find that the man giving it to you good, is also quite a comedian (for me that's a good thing) and we may be able to develop something further. I think that is the part of the problem why sexual relationships don't develop further as often as women think they should. They keep the same routine and expect different results. No, if sex is what was the original focus it probably won't change just because you verbalize that it's something different. But if I'm in a healthy relationship that didn't start with sex and we're all good, I'm not abstaining from nothing. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
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I most definitly would. I would want to know why though and we would have to discuss it but I could definitly abstain. I think it shows a level of commitment that few aren't willing to test. You know a lot of times, when people stop bangin' they find they don't have that much in common but the sex. You know good sex will blind you sometimes and I think that its good to have a relationship without it for a period, especially on the front end, so that way you can really see if there's something there other than the physical. Cause ya'll know how hard it is to let someone go who dicks you down good. We've all been there.
Anyway, I would abstain on the front end and on the back end even if we were already having sex--especially if we're already having sex, that may stop me from making a mistake, make sure I really like this Negro. LOL
If sex is where your relationship started and you later what to build something more, abstaining may be the best thing to do to ensure there is something else between you two besides good sex. You may find that the man giving it to you good, is also quite a comedian (for me that's a good thing) and we may be able to develop something further. I think that is the part of the problem why sexual relationships don't develop further as often as women think they should. They keep the same routine and expect different results. No, if sex is what was the original focus it probably won't change just because you verbalize that it's something different. But if I'm in a healthy relationship that didn't start with sex and we're all good, I'm not abstaining from nothing. If it ain't broke, don't fix it.
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